I wish I were as pretty as she is.
I wish I was as funny as she is.
I wish I could dress as cute as she does.
I wish I had what she has.
I wish I could sing like she does.
I wish I lived in that house or that neighborhood.
And on and on it goes.
To be honest, I think most of us struggle with comparison. We look at others’ gifts, strengths, personalities, and life situations. Then we look at ourselves and feel inadequate or less than others.
When I find myself playing the comparison game, I get discouraged and feel like a failure. But that isn’t God’s desire for me.
The truth I have to keep going back to is: God made me who I am for a reason. He gave me the personality He wants me to have. He gave me gifts and strengths to best carry out His unique purpose for me, not someone else’s purpose.
Paul addressed this in 1 Corinthians 12. I especially love verse 18:
“But now God has placed the members, each one of them, in the body, just as He desired.”
Instead of comparing myself to others, I need to learn to be content with who God has created me to be, instead of wishing I was someone else.
Paul also exhorted the Galatians (and us) in Galatians 6:4-5. Listen to these verses from The Message:
“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.”
It’s easy to look at others’ lives and compare. But comparison takes our eyes off Him and places them on others and ourselves. Instead of playing the game of comparison, let’s give thanks to God for who He has called us to be and the way He has uniquely designed us.
I’d love to hear your thoughts. Why do you think we get caught up in the comparison game? What are some ways to avoid comparison?