The Inevitability of Disappointment

The Inevitability of Disappointment


One thing is certain—we are going to face disappointment in life.

It may be a rejection, a failed relationship, not getting that dream job or dream ________. Disappointment is inevitable in life. How do we deal with disappointment when it comes, and how can we minimize its impact?

I just returned home from a writer’s conference where I met with agents, publishers, and authors for feedback on my writing and the possibilities of publishing Bible studies.

When I attended my first writers’ conference several years ago, I went with high expectations of what God was going to do with my writing! I just knew a publisher was going to hand me a contract, and an agent would want to represent me. But, it didn’t take long at that conference to be shaken back to reality. I had a long way to go in my writing – I wasn’t as good as I thought I was.

My expectations weren’t realistic. The result – disappointment.

I’ve grown a lot since that first writers’ conference. When I signed up to go back this past week, I went with no expectations. Yes, I met with publishers, agents, and authors, and I submitted my work for critiques. But, I didn’t expect anything grand to come from it. My purpose in going this year wasn’t to get a contract or agent, but to learn how to be a better writer.

However, I confess, I did have hope that someone would say, “Crickett, I love your work, and I want to help you get it out to a broader audience.” But, that didn’t happen. And yes, I did face disappointment. But, God is reminding me I need to trust His perfect plan for my life.

He has given me the opportunity to write for the women’s ministry at my church. And if that is the only audience He wants me to write for, then I need to trust His plan for me.

As I’ve had some time to reflect on the week – classes, meetings, one-on-one conversations – I have a choice: trust God, or demand my way. I want to trust God.

“Trust in Him at all times, you people; pour out your hearts to Him, for God is our refuge.” Psalm 62:8

Are you disappointed today about something? Has life not turned out the way you wanted? Can you trust His hand?

I’d love to hear from you – what helps you deal with disappointment?

  1. Love this, Crickett. When I begin feeling overwhelmed by everything that goes along with writing, I sit down and ask the tough question: God, search me and know me – are my motivations pure? I don’t get up from that chair until I know within my heart that whether it’s 1 or 100, it is well with my soul for my goal isn’t about numbers but rather, to glorify God.

    It was such a blessing seeing you at the conference. One of the highlights of my week. I look forward to staying in touch with you throughout the year. 🙂 Blessings, my friend!

    • Cathy, thanks for sharing. If God only wants me to write for my women, I am thankful for that opportunity. You’re so right – it’s not about the numbers, but about glorifying HIm and fulfilling His unique purpose for us. Meeting you at BR was one of the highlights of the week for me. Can’t wait to see all that God does with your devotional book(s). I am taking it to the beach with me in July! And I’ll continue to spread the word. Looking forward to staying in touch!

  2. Crickett, you’ve described the experience of, probably, every writer who attends a writers conference. I enjoyed your post and it’s a good reminder of why we write and who we’re writing for. Thank you.

    • Thank you, Connie. I so loved meeting you in person at BR. Praying for you as you follow God’s leading with your writing. Loved your books!

  3. Crickett,
    Thanks so much for sharing your heart with honesty and integrity. Disappointment is certainly something I’ve struggled with as well, and I think you used the key word–expectations. I’ve found (although I don’t always succeed) that I need to seek God’s path BEFORE I take the first step or I have a tendency to wish for another one. When I don’t do that I more easily find a kinship with disappointment. It was great to see you at #BRMCWC \ May the Lord continue to direct your path.

    • Joshua, I so enjoyed meeting you at BR! Thank you for sharing. Praying God clearly guides you with your writing. I look forward to seeing where God takes you.

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